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While most online dating sites are legitimate, there are plenty of scammers out there looking to take advantage of the members of such sites. Even on reputable paid dating sites, scammers may find it worthwhile to pay for memberships in order to use them to scam other paid members out of money. In this article we’re going to look at the different scams that exist and give you some tips on recognizing them and avoiding them, as well as giving you advice about how to spot fake user profiles, hopefully enabling you to avoid scammers before they even have a chance to interact with you.

One disclaimer before going further: I don’t mean to suggest that profiles or people you contact exhibiting (or even all) of the features and behaviors I am going to describe are necessarily scams—some may very well not be. The sad fact is though, most will be. If it looks too good to be true, guys, it usually is.

Ways to spot a fake user profile

There are a number of features that many fake profiles will have in common. We’ll list some of them here. If a profile you’re looking at ticks any of these boxes, it should be a warning bell—proceed with caution (if at all!)

Suggestive usernames, particularly on female profiles

Even on explicitly “adult” dating sites, genuine female members will very rarely choose sexually-suggestive usernames. Scammers (and hookers) often do use such names, as they know the names will attract attention. Genuine women won’t, because they don’t want the deluge of lewd and sleazy attention that such names provoke.

Glossy, glamorous, “model-looking” photos

Genuine women will occasionally get glamor shots done for their dating profiles, but this should be thought of as the exception rather than the rule. Genuine photos tend to be in natural settings (not studios, or obviously “lit” environments) and tend to be taken by regular consumer cameras, not by professional ones.

Only a single photo

Because scammers are only usually creating multiple fake profiles, a person having only a single photo can be grounds for suspicion, especially if the photo looks like  it might be of a model.

“Unnatural” language and answers on a profile

The language in fake profiles will often seem unnatural and forced. For female profiles, language that is flirty, suggestive and implies an eagerness to quickly embark upon a physical relationship (without preconditions, specifics, or partner criteria) should be seen as highly suspicious. Likewise a man’s profile that mentions wealth.

Poor English in profile (on an English-speaking site)

Unfortunately it is common to see women from poorer countries trying to attract men from wealthier ones in order to gain access to the wealthier country for reasons of economic opportunity. Poorly-written English full of semantic, spelling, and grammatical errors can be the clue that will help you spot these profiles early.

Profiles that claim to be local, but aren’t

If you find a profile that claims that the indicated individual lives near you, yet once you start communicating with you they reveal they live overseas, walk away. Don’t listen to any excuses they may offer: it’s almost certainly a scam.

Incomplete profiles or profiles that try to be too “generically attractive”

Such profiles “widen the net” the scammer is casting  for his prospective victims.

Profiles that are “too good to be true”

You need to ask yourself what the odds are of finding someone on an online dating site who likes exactly all the things you like and, additionally, is super-attractive, super-attracted to you, and super charming.

The profile asks you to visit a webpage

If a profile suggests that you visit a web page, that may be a clue that it’s fake. Many such profiles will link directly to signup forms for adult or adult dating websites, or perhaps to a small fake “personal” site that tries to convince you to join a paid site. Also be wary of profiles where the user tries to get you to go straight to Yahoo messenger or another IM client; usually these profiles are directing you to a bot or to linkspam.

An example of a fake profile

Now just for fun, let’s take a look at a known fake profile, and look at how the tips I’ve given above should help us to figure out that it’s probably fake.

Here’s the profile. It was recently submitted to a free dating site, and was quickly reported and deleted by a sharp-eyed member. Take a look at it, and think about why it doesn’t ring true (you can click on it to see the full-sized version.)

dating scammer
dating scammer sample

How about that username? It’s sort of borderline. “msalisonangel” isn’t quite “readyforsexnow”, but it’s still a little cutesier than genuine women tend to go for. The real giveaways are:

1) The photos. She’s extremely attractive, which is always a red flag. More importantly though, the photos are clearly professionally-taken, and in the second photo (thumbnail at the bottom) “msalisonangel” is striking an obvious “model pose”. I’d be prepared to call “fake” based on the photos alone.

As it turned out, the reason this profile was identified as fake was because a member recognized the photos as being those of a well-known soft-porn star.

2) The language. The title and “About Me” language is designed both to have an extremely broad appeal and to make the woman appear eager for sex. She wants “a soulmate for the eventide years of her life” (and seriously, what 22-year-old even uses the word “eventide”?) and yet also says “Committment-wise, I’m pretty casual”. The language also feels quite forced and unnatural (not to mention “confused”), and the opening “Sexually, I’m an explorer” gambit should ring alarm bells.

Common online dating scams

How much fun was that? Of course, fake profiles are just the tip of the iceberg as far as online dating scams go. The bait to tempt you, if you will. We also want to be more broadly aware of what sort of scams fake profiles might lure us into, so here’s an overview of the more common ones to watch out for:

The damsel in distress scam

A (usually female) site member with an attractive photo claims to be in need/trouble, and requests that you help her out financially. A variation on this scam is the travel scam, where the person claims to need money so they can afford to travel to meet you, with a view to pursuing a long term relationship.

The phishing scam

Email from contacts that press you for detailed personal information such as your financial information, your home address, full name, phone number, or social security number are almost certainly scammers. These people either try to scam the online dating users outright, using the information to masquerade as the victim for pecuniary gain, or are collecting the data to sell to some third party who will exploit the data in the same way.

The laundering scam

The fraudster may not ask you for any money directly. Instead, he may ask you to cash money orders or cheques and to wire (or perhaps Western Union) him the proceeds, or some fraction of the proceeds. The money orders or cheques will later turn out to be fake or stolen and you will be left out of pocket and possibly be held responsible for receiving stolen funds.

Prostitute scam

Prostitutes advertising illegally on dating sites tend to be straightforward. They place profiles to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names, suggestive photos, and explicit self-descriptions. They don’t waste time letting you know what they are after.

Phonesex scam

The person will ask you to call them, and after you do you‘ll get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars. In the United States such phone numbers will start with 1-900, but pay lines in other countries will have different numerical prefixes. The scammer in this case might try to allay your fears of having to pay for a call by making up some story explaining why you won’t have to. Don’t be fooled.

The “Nigerian” postal scam

The person pretends to be a relative of a deceased government official or some other dignitary who asks for your help in a financial transaction. Sometimes mention of a lottery having been won, but the winner being able to collect the winnings himself for some reason. The author of the email will offer a huge reward if you help him to transfer a large sum of money. It’s called the Nigerian postal scam because the first such scams originated in Nigeria, but the scam “type” has now spread, and may originate from other countries as well.

Stay smart and safe out there!

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While most online dating sites are legitimate, there are plenty of scammers out there looking to take advantage of the members of such sites. Even on reputable paid dating sites, scammers may find it worthwhile to pay for memberships in order to use them to scam other paid members out of money. In this article we’re going to look at the different scams that exist and give you some tips on recognizing them and avoiding them, as well as giving you advice about how to spot fake user profiles, hopefully enabling you to avoid scammers before they even have a chance to interact with you.

One disclaimer before going further: I don’t mean to suggest that profiles or people you contact exhibiting (or even all) of the features and behaviors I am going to describe are necessarily scams—some may very well not be. The sad fact is though, most will be. If it looks too good to be true, guys, it usually is.

Ways to spot a fake user profile

There are a number of features that many fake profiles will have in common. We’ll list some of them here. If a profile you’re looking at ticks any of these boxes, it should be a warning bell—proceed with caution (if at all!)

Suggestive usernames, particularly on female profiles

Even on explicitly “adult” dating sites, genuine female members will very rarely choose sexually-suggestive usernames. Scammers (and hookers) often do use such names, as they know the names will attract attention. Genuine women won’t, because they don’t want the deluge of lewd and sleazy attention that such names provoke.

Glossy, glamorous, “model-looking” photos

Genuine women will occasionally get glamor shots done for their dating profiles, but this should be thought of as the exception rather than the rule. Genuine photos tend to be in natural settings (not studios, or obviously “lit” environments) and tend to be taken by regular consumer cameras, not by professional ones.

Only a single photo

Because scammers are only usually creating multiple fake profiles, a person having only a single photo can be grounds for suspicion, especially if the photo looks like  it might be of a model.

“Unnatural” language and answers on a profile

The language in fake profiles will often seem unnatural and forced. For female profiles, language that is flirty, suggestive and implies an eagerness to quickly embark upon a physical relationship (without preconditions, specifics, or partner criteria) should be seen as highly suspicious. Likewise a man’s profile that mentions wealth.

Poor English in profile (on an English-speaking site)

Unfortunately it is common to see women from poorer countries trying to attract men from wealthier ones in order to gain access to the wealthier country for reasons of economic opportunity. Poorly-written English full of semantic, spelling, and grammatical errors can be the clue that will help you spot these profiles early.

Profiles that claim to be local, but aren’t

If you find a profile that claims that the indicated individual lives near you, yet once you start communicating with you they reveal they live overseas, walk away. Don’t listen to any excuses they may offer: it’s almost certainly a scam.

Incomplete profiles or profiles that try to be too “generically attractive”

Such profiles “widen the net” the scammer is casting  for his prospective victims.

Profiles that are “too good to be true”

You need to ask yourself what the odds are of finding someone on an online dating site who likes exactly all the things you like and, additionally, is super-attractive, super-attracted to you, and super charming.

The profile asks you to visit a webpage

If a profile suggests that you visit a web page, that may be a clue that it’s fake. Many such profiles will link directly to signup forms for adult or adult dating websites, or perhaps to a small fake “personal” site that tries to convince you to join a paid site. Also be wary of profiles where the user tries to get you to go straight to Yahoo messenger or another IM client; usually these profiles are directing you to a bot or to linkspam.

An example of a fake profile

Now just for fun, let’s take a look at a known fake profile, and look at how the tips I’ve given above should help us to figure out that it’s probably fake.

Here’s the profile. It was recently submitted to a free dating site, and was quickly reported and deleted by a sharp-eyed member. Take a look at it, and think about why it doesn’t ring true (you can click on it to see the full-sized version.)

dating scammer
dating scammer sample

How about that username? It’s sort of borderline. “msalisonangel” isn’t quite “readyforsexnow”, but it’s still a little cutesier than genuine women tend to go for. The real giveaways are:

1) The photos. She’s extremely attractive, which is always a red flag. More importantly though, the photos are clearly professionally-taken, and in the second photo (thumbnail at the bottom) “msalisonangel” is striking an obvious “model pose”. I’d be prepared to call “fake” based on the photos alone.

As it turned out, the reason this profile was identified as fake was because a member recognized the photos as being those of a well-known soft-porn star.

2) The language. The title and “About Me” language is designed both to have an extremely broad appeal and to make the woman appear eager for sex. She wants “a soulmate for the eventide years of her life” (and seriously, what 22-year-old even uses the word “eventide”?) and yet also says “Committment-wise, I’m pretty casual”. The language also feels quite forced and unnatural (not to mention “confused”), and the opening “Sexually, I’m an explorer” gambit should ring alarm bells.

Common online dating scams

How much fun was that? Of course, fake profiles are just the tip of the iceberg as far as online dating scams go. The bait to tempt you, if you will. We also want to be more broadly aware of what sort of scams fake profiles might lure us into, so here’s an overview of the more common ones to watch out for:

The damsel in distress scam

A (usually female) site member with an attractive photo claims to be in need/trouble, and requests that you help her out financially. A variation on this scam is the travel scam, where the person claims to need money so they can afford to travel to meet you, with a view to pursuing a long term relationship.

The phishing scam

Email from contacts that press you for detailed personal information such as your financial information, your home address, full name, phone number, or social security number are almost certainly scammers. These people either try to scam the online dating users outright, using the information to masquerade as the victim for pecuniary gain, or are collecting the data to sell to some third party who will exploit the data in the same way.

The laundering scam

The fraudster may not ask you for any money directly. Instead, he may ask you to cash money orders or cheques and to wire (or perhaps Western Union) him the proceeds, or some fraction of the proceeds. The money orders or cheques will later turn out to be fake or stolen and you will be left out of pocket and possibly be held responsible for receiving stolen funds.

Prostitute scam

Prostitutes advertising illegally on dating sites tend to be straightforward. They place profiles to solicit business. Such profiles are usually easily recognized by sleazy user names, suggestive photos, and explicit self-descriptions. They don’t waste time letting you know what they are after.

Phonesex scam

The person will ask you to call them, and after you do you‘ll get a bill in the mail for hundreds of dollars. In the United States such phone numbers will start with 1-900, but pay lines in other countries will have different numerical prefixes. The scammer in this case might try to allay your fears of having to pay for a call by making up some story explaining why you won’t have to. Don’t be fooled.

The “Nigerian” postal scam

The person pretends to be a relative of a deceased government official or some other dignitary who asks for your help in a financial transaction. Sometimes mention of a lottery having been won, but the winner being able to collect the winnings himself for some reason. The author of the email will offer a huge reward if you help him to transfer a large sum of money. It’s called the Nigerian postal scam because the first such scams originated in Nigeria, but the scam “type” has now spread, and may originate from other countries as well.

Stay smart and safe out there!

The post Spotting Online Dating Scams appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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One question women often ask is “why do men text instead of call?” Women tend to see this as a sign of laziness on the guy’s part. Men see texting as an easier and more efficient way to communicate. Often we do not understand the difference between texting and calling. We believe we can convey the same message thru text as well as voice. We don’t understand the emotional connection often made with a phone call. These aren’t the only reasons we text opposed to calling but none of these reasons have anything to do with how attracted we are to a woman.

Fear of rejection – men text because we fear being rejected. If we call, and get a voicemail, a part of us feels somewhat rejected. Obviously, she could be busy, but she could also be ignoring our phone call. Text’s have a sense of immediacy, we’re very sure that she’s gotten and read the text message.

Hard to ignore – It’s hard to ignore a text message, when you receive one, you’re more likely to act on it. It’s a lot easier to miss a phone call and let it go to voicemail. Voicemails can be forgotten and, many times, can be misunderstood. Texts are in plain black and white, or green, or blue…

We’re Busy – some people lead very busy lifestyles. I know I do. It’s easier to shoot off a text message rather than having a 10 minute conversation when I only have 5. It feels rude having to cut someone off in the middle of a call. Sending a text message gets my point across and I can also respond to it even if I’m in a meeting.

Why Talk on the Phone When I Can See You In Person – guys tend not to want to talk on the phone for long when we can meet you in person and talk. We prefer face to face interactions. When necessary we can cope with extended phone conversations, but if we can meet you a 30 minute phone call means a lot less.

Not comfortable on the phone – this is more of a personal reason than anything else. I can be very uncomfortable on the phone, especially with someone I like. I can bullshit with my friends all day, but sometimes I get nervous and out of breath when I’m talking to a date on the phone. All of that awkwardness is thrown out of the window via text, it’s just words and a keypad. I rather that than having to awkwardly talk into a voicemail void.

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One question women often ask is “why do men text instead of call?” Women tend to see this as a sign of laziness on the guy’s part. Men see texting as an easier and more efficient way to communicate. Often we do not understand the difference between texting and calling. We believe we can convey the same message thru text as well as voice. We don’t understand the emotional connection often made with a phone call. These aren’t the only reasons we text opposed to calling but none of these reasons have anything to do with how attracted we are to a woman.

Fear of rejection – men text because we fear being rejected. If we call, and get a voicemail, a part of us feels somewhat rejected. Obviously, she could be busy, but she could also be ignoring our phone call. Text’s have a sense of immediacy, we’re very sure that she’s gotten and read the text message.

Hard to ignore – It’s hard to ignore a text message, when you receive one, you’re more likely to act on it. It’s a lot easier to miss a phone call and let it go to voicemail. Voicemails can be forgotten and, many times, can be misunderstood. Texts are in plain black and white, or green, or blue…

We’re Busy – some people lead very busy lifestyles. I know I do. It’s easier to shoot off a text message rather than having a 10 minute conversation when I only have 5. It feels rude having to cut someone off in the middle of a call. Sending a text message gets my point across and I can also respond to it even if I’m in a meeting.

Why Talk on the Phone When I Can See You In Person – guys tend not to want to talk on the phone for long when we can meet you in person and talk. We prefer face to face interactions. When necessary we can cope with extended phone conversations, but if we can meet you a 30 minute phone call means a lot less.

Not comfortable on the phone – this is more of a personal reason than anything else. I can be very uncomfortable on the phone, especially with someone I like. I can bullshit with my friends all day, but sometimes I get nervous and out of breath when I’m talking to a date on the phone. All of that awkwardness is thrown out of the window via text, it’s just words and a keypad. I rather that than having to awkwardly talk into a voicemail void.

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We’ve all found ourselves trapped in a theater watching a movie we hate with the person we love, and trust me ladies, it goes both ways. But what can the movies your date favors really tell you about how compatible you are with each other? Loveawake pokes fun at the idea of picking a mate […]

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We’ve all found ourselves trapped in a theater watching a movie we hate with the person we love, and trust me ladies, it goes both ways. But what can the movies your date favors really tell you about how compatible you are with each other? Loveawake pokes fun at the idea of picking a mate at the cineplex.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Die Hard

Then He’s Probably: Loyal to a fault, with traditional values and a strong belief that family and friendship come above all else. He probably also loves to watch things explode, which means you may never enjoy a mutually satisfying date night. Zounds, the irony. Check this collection of Ultimate Movie Cops to see if your man’s favorite badass made the list. How they left Steve McQueen’s Frank Bullitt off the list, I’ll never know.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Twilight

Then He’s Probably: Not interested in you, but would love to go shopping later if you’re free. He’s also probably 15 years old.

If His Favorite Movie Is: The Shawshank Redemption

Then He’s Probably: Convinced that this makes him sensitive and deep, but is probably about as fun as having your oil changed. The upside is it’s actually a great movie, nothing blows up in it, and his appreciation for it does at least say that, like everyone else on earth, your man likes a good Morgan Freeman joint. “The Dark Knight” would have been a more interesting choice, though. Or “Se7en.”

If His Favorite Movie Is: “Star Wars/ Lord of the Rings/The Matrix/ Raiders of the Lost Ark”

Then He’s Probably: A dreamer. These movies all have one major thing in common: unlikely protagonist fancies himself special and actually turns out to be. Your guy may not, but be prepared for him to chase the dream for the rest of his(your) life(lives). This could be good or bad, but just know before you get into it that he will never discover his mastery of the force, his ability to dodge bullets, or the Ark of the Covenant. Sorry, ladies.

If His Favorite Movie Is: The Hangover

Then He’s Probably: Not marriage material, at least not yet. He’s lots of fun, unpredictable, probably unreliable but has great friendships and values them. He may also befriend Mike Tyson, hire some strippers and attempt to teach your cat to get him a beer and/or kill itself. Just letting you know.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Blazing Saddles

Then He’s Probably: The life of the party. Children’s birthday parties, that is. Prepare yourself for a life filled with copious amounts of dick and fart jokes. Your man probably has trouble taking anything seriously, and obviously finds the borderline unfunny beyond hilarious. His sense of humor (see also: style; politeness) may be 30 years behind on a much- needed update. 

If His Favorite Movie Is: Say Anything

Then He’s Probably: A master of the mixtape, your man is a deep-down, unapologeticly hopeless romantic. To know Lloyd Dobler may be to love him, and if John Cusack movies get you going, then perfect. But know that if you’re ready to call it quits, he may not take no for an answer, and too much of a good thing is still just that. Be careful what you wish for.

So does your guy fit into a category? Did we miss something? Send us your comments!

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We’ve all found ourselves trapped in a theater watching a movie we hate with the person we love, and trust me ladies, it goes both ways. But what can the movies your date favors really tell you about how compatible you are with each other? Loveawake pokes fun at the idea of picking a mate […]

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We’ve all found ourselves trapped in a theater watching a movie we hate with the person we love, and trust me ladies, it goes both ways. But what can the movies your date favors really tell you about how compatible you are with each other? Loveawake pokes fun at the idea of picking a mate at the cineplex.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Die Hard

Then He’s Probably: Loyal to a fault, with traditional values and a strong belief that family and friendship come above all else. He probably also loves to watch things explode, which means you may never enjoy a mutually satisfying date night. Zounds, the irony. Check this collection of Ultimate Movie Cops to see if your man’s favorite badass made the list. How they left Steve McQueen’s Frank Bullitt off the list, I’ll never know.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Twilight

Then He’s Probably: Not interested in you, but would love to go shopping later if you’re free. He’s also probably 15 years old.

If His Favorite Movie Is: The Shawshank Redemption

Then He’s Probably: Convinced that this makes him sensitive and deep, but is probably about as fun as having your oil changed. The upside is it’s actually a great movie, nothing blows up in it, and his appreciation for it does at least say that, like everyone else on earth, your man likes a good Morgan Freeman joint. “The Dark Knight” would have been a more interesting choice, though. Or “Se7en.”

If His Favorite Movie Is: “Star Wars/ Lord of the Rings/The Matrix/ Raiders of the Lost Ark”

Then He’s Probably: A dreamer. These movies all have one major thing in common: unlikely protagonist fancies himself special and actually turns out to be. Your guy may not, but be prepared for him to chase the dream for the rest of his(your) life(lives). This could be good or bad, but just know before you get into it that he will never discover his mastery of the force, his ability to dodge bullets, or the Ark of the Covenant. Sorry, ladies.

If His Favorite Movie Is: The Hangover

Then He’s Probably: Not marriage material, at least not yet. He’s lots of fun, unpredictable, probably unreliable but has great friendships and values them. He may also befriend Mike Tyson, hire some strippers and attempt to teach your cat to get him a beer and/or kill itself. Just letting you know.

If His Favorite Movie Is: Blazing Saddles

Then He’s Probably: The life of the party. Children’s birthday parties, that is. Prepare yourself for a life filled with copious amounts of dick and fart jokes. Your man probably has trouble taking anything seriously, and obviously finds the borderline unfunny beyond hilarious. His sense of humor (see also: style; politeness) may be 30 years behind on a much- needed update. 

If His Favorite Movie Is: Say Anything

Then He’s Probably: A master of the mixtape, your man is a deep-down, unapologeticly hopeless romantic. To know Lloyd Dobler may be to love him, and if John Cusack movies get you going, then perfect. But know that if you’re ready to call it quits, he may not take no for an answer, and too much of a good thing is still just that. Be careful what you wish for.

So does your guy fit into a category? Did we miss something? Send us your comments!

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Jeff: An economics student at Warwickshire University in London has determined that it’s basically mathematically impossible to find a mate. Okay, that’s not technically what he calculated. According to PhD student Peter Brackus, chances are 100 times better of finding love than alien intelligence — in fact, that’s the title of the story in the UK Telegraph: […]

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Jeff: An economics student at Warwickshire University in London has determined that it’s basically mathematically impossible to find a mate. Okay, that’s not technically what he calculated. According to PhD student Peter Brackus, chances are 100 times better of finding love than alien intelligence — in fact, that’s the title of the story in the UK Telegraph: “Humans 100 times more likely to find love than intelligent alien life.”

The article states that according to a little something called the Drake Equation (which I get nerd points for actually having heard of before), there’s only a 0.00000003% chance of communicating with an alien life form (via, I believe, deep-space radio). Mr. Brackus figures there’s a 0.0000034% chance that he can find Ms. Right, so about 100 times better odds.

Jeanette: Mr. Brackus — wasn’t he on Gilligans’ Island?

Jeff: Close. That was Jim Backus.

Jeanette: Well, some of my old boyfriends were definitely more or less some sort of alien life forms. But this equation is just about women?

Jeff: Technically, it’s just about women whom he would consider to be suitable mates.

Jeanette: Just you wait! Since his equation is based on his own criteria, and parameters, there are bound to be a lot of variables that could alter that science.

Jeff: Well, his isn’t a blanket statement covering everyone, as the story’s headline would suggest, but I imagine a lot of people would fall into the same ballpark numbers-wise if they changed the variable values to fit their own tastes. And this is already by far the most science-word-heavy post we’ve done.

Jeanette: I don’t believe that finding “love” — or aliens, for that matter — can be reduced to a mathematical equation that easily.

Jeff: I agree. In fact, I’d advise against it.

Jeanette: Although I’m glad for his sake that he thinks love is slightly more likely than finding aliens. But really… we know love exists. Billions of people have experienced it. Whereas only a handful of people have had the thrill of being probed by aliens.

Jeff: This word “thrill.” I do not think it means what you think it means.

Jeanette: He just hasn’t met The Girl yet.

Jeff: Maybe he needs to spend less time doing The Math. It’s actually a pretty fun article, and the guy has a pretty good and self-deprecating sense of humor. Sorry, he’s English — humour.

Jeanette: Yes, I did get a good chuckle out of reading it. A definite Englishness to it all.

Jeff: The article presents and explains his full equation, and I have to give him credit for being thorough. So, what can he do to increase his odds of finding the right woman? Well, how about being profiled in a major newspaper? That can’t hurt.

Jeanette: Well, for starters, someone that self-deprecating probably has a touch of self-esteem issues. I would say he might lack a little self-confidence. But if someone is that humorous, and scientifically smart, there’s a girl out there for him. Even if he looks like Mr. Bean — I mean, shoot, Rowan Atkinson has a hottie for a wife.

Jeff: Guys who are rich and funny tend to have that happen. Will Ferrell? Not much to look at. But hot Swedish wife? Yeah.

Jeanette: Well, I suppose if you’re just funny and scientific, that might not be as good of a combo as funny and rich.

Jeff: Me? Homely as the day is long. But hot Swedish wife? Yeah.

Jeanette: You’re not homely, you’re cute.

Jeff: You know what Peter Brackus should try? The Internet. Why, there are dames galore on the Internet, some of them even real. If things really are as dire as he says, trying to start something up online would actually be a good way to improve his odds. The whole plus to dating site profiles is that you can quickly filter in or out your key likes or dislikes in a potential mate, to the extent that you can trust what’s stated in each person’s profile.

Jeanette: The thing is, I still truly also believe that love is sort of one of those chance things that can happen, but only if you go with the flow and let people around you gravitate toward you, or vice versa. I had all but given up on love before you and I met, because I was tired of trying to “make it happen.” Love just happens; you can’t make it come your way.

Jeff: And it’s something that often can build over time as you get to know someone, as opposed to meeting someone and just clicking right off the bat and having it be all fireworks and guitar solos (trying to launch a new metaphor here). He could very well meet a woman for the first time, have it be a complete disaster, and then later on they might fall madly in love. It happens, and I don’t think his equation accounts for it. So love is something so complicated, you can’t wrap an equation around it. Imagine that.

The real equation that matters (gosh, this is so lame) is…….1 + 1 = 2.

 

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Jeff: An economics student at Warwickshire University in London has determined that it’s basically mathematically impossible to find a mate. Okay, that’s not technically what he calculated. According to PhD student Peter Brackus, chances are 100 times better of finding love than alien intelligence — in fact, that’s the title of the story in the UK Telegraph: […]

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Jeff: An economics student at Warwickshire University in London has determined that it’s basically mathematically impossible to find a mate. Okay, that’s not technically what he calculated. According to PhD student Peter Brackus, chances are 100 times better of finding love than alien intelligence — in fact, that’s the title of the story in the UK Telegraph: “Humans 100 times more likely to find love than intelligent alien life.”

The article states that according to a little something called the Drake Equation (which I get nerd points for actually having heard of before), there’s only a 0.00000003% chance of communicating with an alien life form (via, I believe, deep-space radio). Mr. Brackus figures there’s a 0.0000034% chance that he can find Ms. Right, so about 100 times better odds.

Jeanette: Mr. Brackus — wasn’t he on Gilligans’ Island?

Jeff: Close. That was Jim Backus.

Jeanette: Well, some of my old boyfriends were definitely more or less some sort of alien life forms. But this equation is just about women?

Jeff: Technically, it’s just about women whom he would consider to be suitable mates.

Jeanette: Just you wait! Since his equation is based on his own criteria, and parameters, there are bound to be a lot of variables that could alter that science.

Jeff: Well, his isn’t a blanket statement covering everyone, as the story’s headline would suggest, but I imagine a lot of people would fall into the same ballpark numbers-wise if they changed the variable values to fit their own tastes. And this is already by far the most science-word-heavy post we’ve done.

Jeanette: I don’t believe that finding “love” — or aliens, for that matter — can be reduced to a mathematical equation that easily.

Jeff: I agree. In fact, I’d advise against it.

Jeanette: Although I’m glad for his sake that he thinks love is slightly more likely than finding aliens. But really… we know love exists. Billions of people have experienced it. Whereas only a handful of people have had the thrill of being probed by aliens.

Jeff: This word “thrill.” I do not think it means what you think it means.

Jeanette: He just hasn’t met The Girl yet.

Jeff: Maybe he needs to spend less time doing The Math. It’s actually a pretty fun article, and the guy has a pretty good and self-deprecating sense of humor. Sorry, he’s English — humour.

Jeanette: Yes, I did get a good chuckle out of reading it. A definite Englishness to it all.

Jeff: The article presents and explains his full equation, and I have to give him credit for being thorough. So, what can he do to increase his odds of finding the right woman? Well, how about being profiled in a major newspaper? That can’t hurt.

Jeanette: Well, for starters, someone that self-deprecating probably has a touch of self-esteem issues. I would say he might lack a little self-confidence. But if someone is that humorous, and scientifically smart, there’s a girl out there for him. Even if he looks like Mr. Bean — I mean, shoot, Rowan Atkinson has a hottie for a wife.

Jeff: Guys who are rich and funny tend to have that happen. Will Ferrell? Not much to look at. But hot Swedish wife? Yeah.

Jeanette: Well, I suppose if you’re just funny and scientific, that might not be as good of a combo as funny and rich.

Jeff: Me? Homely as the day is long. But hot Swedish wife? Yeah.

Jeanette: You’re not homely, you’re cute.

Jeff: You know what Peter Brackus should try? The Internet. Why, there are dames galore on the Internet, some of them even real. If things really are as dire as he says, trying to start something up online would actually be a good way to improve his odds. The whole plus to dating site profiles is that you can quickly filter in or out your key likes or dislikes in a potential mate, to the extent that you can trust what’s stated in each person’s profile.

Jeanette: The thing is, I still truly also believe that love is sort of one of those chance things that can happen, but only if you go with the flow and let people around you gravitate toward you, or vice versa. I had all but given up on love before you and I met, because I was tired of trying to “make it happen.” Love just happens; you can’t make it come your way.

Jeff: And it’s something that often can build over time as you get to know someone, as opposed to meeting someone and just clicking right off the bat and having it be all fireworks and guitar solos (trying to launch a new metaphor here). He could very well meet a woman for the first time, have it be a complete disaster, and then later on they might fall madly in love. It happens, and I don’t think his equation accounts for it. So love is something so complicated, you can’t wrap an equation around it. Imagine that.

The real equation that matters (gosh, this is so lame) is…….1 + 1 = 2.

 

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There are many times when men are inconsiderate towards women. This often happens during the the beginning of the dating process. Our inconsiderateness isn’t on purpose, we’re trying to manage our lives as best as anyone else. Life is busy and hectic; an emotional and physical nightmare that has its ups and downs. Often when […]

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There are many times when men are inconsiderate towards women. This often happens during the the beginning of the dating process. Our inconsiderateness isn’t on purpose, we’re trying to manage our lives as best as anyone else. Life is busy and hectic; an emotional and physical nightmare that has its ups and downs. Often when we’re seen as being inconsiderate, it’s something we trip over, and don’t mean. I often call these our “stupid male moves”, and happen when there’s lapses in judgement or thought. The  ”classic” example of men being inconsiderate is when we don’t call a woman after getting their number. Often we’re entangled in our lives and forget or don’t act (there are other reasons we don’t call, as previously covered.)

Not calling isn’t a sin, regardless of what women would like us to believe. There are other, more deviously, instances when we clearly are not being considerate of the women we date.

When We Don’t Listen

There’s an art to listening what our dates have to say. It  doesn’t require providing advice or telling them what they should do, it’s actually listening to every word a woman is saying and having a discussion based on those words. Empathizing and comparing a situation to other life experiences are a part of the process, but it should never be a chance where we change the focus onto ourselves. She’s saying something and wants us to listen. So shut up.

Engaging In Activities Or Topics That May Make Her Insecure

In the beginning of dating someone, it’s important not to make a woman feel insecure. The situation becomes tricker while in a relationship, but at the beginning you should do your best not to make her feel insecure or wanted. Don’t mention ex-girlfriends, or disparaging comments. One classic example is talking about her weight, avoid any conversation about weight unless she brings it up first. Then beware, it can often be a trap!

Not Keeping In Touch With Her

This falls under the “why men don’t call” umbrella. Sure every woman loves a call from the person they are dating, but we aren’t always so call centric. While dating make sure you find the right means of communication with a woman, whether it be voice, e-mail, smoke signals, etc. Just make sure there’s a line of communication. Don’t overdo it either, there should be breaks in the communication; distance is nice. If you’ve gone a few days without talking to her, and she’s initiated contact with you, you’re being inconsiderate (and often would be finding a new date.)

Making Her Aware of What’s Going On In Our Lives

Life is messy. People get fired, accidents happen, hospital visits must be had, and rough times are abound. While you shouldn’t get into every detail of what’s going on, not making her aware of what’s happening in your life shows you may not want her completely aware of your life. It’s okay to say “I’m having a rough time, I want you to know that, I may need some time to myself,” instead of not calling or acting “weird”. If she’s sensible, she’ll understand and be more than willing to accomodate while life throws you curve balls.

While this isn’t the complete list of ways we are inconsiderate to women, it’s what I’ve found to be some common denominators. This isn’t to say that women aren’t inconsiderate to men, but it doesn’t give you a platform to a jerk. Being considerate while dating is a two way street, and another blog post.

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There are many times when men are inconsiderate towards women. This often happens during the the beginning of the dating process. Our inconsiderateness isn’t on purpose, we’re trying to manage our lives as best as anyone else. Life is busy and hectic; an emotional and physical nightmare that has its ups and downs. Often when […]

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There are many times when men are inconsiderate towards women. This often happens during the the beginning of the dating process. Our inconsiderateness isn’t on purpose, we’re trying to manage our lives as best as anyone else. Life is busy and hectic; an emotional and physical nightmare that has its ups and downs. Often when we’re seen as being inconsiderate, it’s something we trip over, and don’t mean. I often call these our “stupid male moves”, and happen when there’s lapses in judgement or thought. The  ”classic” example of men being inconsiderate is when we don’t call a woman after getting their number. Often we’re entangled in our lives and forget or don’t act (there are other reasons we don’t call, as previously covered.)

Not calling isn’t a sin, regardless of what women would like us to believe. There are other, more deviously, instances when we clearly are not being considerate of the women we date.

When We Don’t Listen

There’s an art to listening what our dates have to say. It  doesn’t require providing advice or telling them what they should do, it’s actually listening to every word a woman is saying and having a discussion based on those words. Empathizing and comparing a situation to other life experiences are a part of the process, but it should never be a chance where we change the focus onto ourselves. She’s saying something and wants us to listen. So shut up.

Engaging In Activities Or Topics That May Make Her Insecure

In the beginning of dating someone, it’s important not to make a woman feel insecure. The situation becomes tricker while in a relationship, but at the beginning you should do your best not to make her feel insecure or wanted. Don’t mention ex-girlfriends, or disparaging comments. One classic example is talking about her weight, avoid any conversation about weight unless she brings it up first. Then beware, it can often be a trap!

Not Keeping In Touch With Her

This falls under the “why men don’t call” umbrella. Sure every woman loves a call from the person they are dating, but we aren’t always so call centric. While dating make sure you find the right means of communication with a woman, whether it be voice, e-mail, smoke signals, etc. Just make sure there’s a line of communication. Don’t overdo it either, there should be breaks in the communication; distance is nice. If you’ve gone a few days without talking to her, and she’s initiated contact with you, you’re being inconsiderate (and often would be finding a new date.)

Making Her Aware of What’s Going On In Our Lives

Life is messy. People get fired, accidents happen, hospital visits must be had, and rough times are abound. While you shouldn’t get into every detail of what’s going on, not making her aware of what’s happening in your life shows you may not want her completely aware of your life. It’s okay to say “I’m having a rough time, I want you to know that, I may need some time to myself,” instead of not calling or acting “weird”. If she’s sensible, she’ll understand and be more than willing to accomodate while life throws you curve balls.

While this isn’t the complete list of ways we are inconsiderate to women, it’s what I’ve found to be some common denominators. This isn’t to say that women aren’t inconsiderate to men, but it doesn’t give you a platform to a jerk. Being considerate while dating is a two way street, and another blog post.

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Sometimes getting relationships right is the hardest thing on earth, especially when friends, work and the Internet get involved. So many people are telling you what to do that you may have forgotten what not to do. Here are 10 tried-and-true ways to NEVER get what you want from a relationship: 1. Toss trust out […]

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Sometimes getting relationships right is the hardest thing on earth, especially when friends, work and the Internet get involved. So many people are telling you what to do that you may have forgotten what not to do. Here are 10 tried-and-true ways to NEVER get what you want from a relationship:

1. Toss trust out the window. You heard me, your man is lying. All the time. So go through his email, check his phone records and, if possible, intercept the mailman. It’s the only way you’ll really know what’s going on.

2. Be a ‘Yes’ Girl. You saw that Jim Carrey movie Yes Man a couple years ago, right? When he couldn’t stop

saying yes to people? Well, that is exactly what guys want today, ladies. So start saying yes, keep your real opinion to yourself and always, always tell him he is 100 percent right. Who needs equality in a relationship anyway?

3. Brag about your exes. Especially if they had a lot of money, a high-profile career or an amazing family. That is exactly the right way to show your new guy how important you really are.

4. Let your girlfriends run your relationship. Hey, we all need our girlfriends to prop us up from time to time. That’s understandable, and if your guy doesn’t see just how important your girl friends are — especially their opinions about him, the relationship and your job — he just doesn’t get you.

5. Crack that whip. No, not literally, but let him know you’re in charge. Take control of the relationship and hold on tight. Tell him what to wear, where to go for dinner and how to conduct himself in his place of work. That way he knows how much you care.

6. Be late or stand him up. Who cares if you’ve made plans with him and have nothing else to do? Sometimes a guy needs to be kept guessing, and nothing will do that more than being late for a date or skipping out on the date entirely.

7. Make your guy your girlfriend. Tell him all about your lady-business, borrow his razor constantly and even share his toothbrush. Nothing says, “I love you,” more than communal hygiene products. Oh, and make him buy tampons every now and again.

8. Text, talk and email on your dates. Hey, he needs to know just how valuable you are. So keep talking to your girlfriends, text your work buddies and check email. Constantly. He’ll get the message that he’s not your No. 1 priority soon enough.

9. Be rude. To him, to waiters/waitresses, theater workers. Anyone you come into contact with, really, because what every guy wants is a high-maintenance, never-happy woman at their side.

10. Cheat. See rule No. 1. You already think he’s cheating, so no matter how great he is or how much potential you think this relationship has, cheat. Hey, at least you’ll have a little fun before your romantic world comes crashing down, right?

OK ladies, obviously this one is a little tongue-in-cheek. If you really want to get that next relationship right, take these 10 rules and flip them upside down. Don’t talk about your exes, do make your relationship a priority and do talk to your guy as if he has a few brain cells left. Be open, honest and trusting and see where that takes you.

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Sometimes getting relationships right is the hardest thing on earth, especially when friends, work and the Internet get involved. So many people are telling you what to do that you may have forgotten what not to do. Here are 10 tried-and-true ways to NEVER get what you want from a relationship: 1. Toss trust out […]

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Sometimes getting relationships right is the hardest thing on earth, especially when friends, work and the Internet get involved. So many people are telling you what to do that you may have forgotten what not to do. Here are 10 tried-and-true ways to NEVER get what you want from a relationship:

1. Toss trust out the window. You heard me, your man is lying. All the time. So go through his email, check his phone records and, if possible, intercept the mailman. It’s the only way you’ll really know what’s going on.

2. Be a ‘Yes’ Girl. You saw that Jim Carrey movie Yes Man a couple years ago, right? When he couldn’t stop

saying yes to people? Well, that is exactly what guys want today, ladies. So start saying yes, keep your real opinion to yourself and always, always tell him he is 100 percent right. Who needs equality in a relationship anyway?

3. Brag about your exes. Especially if they had a lot of money, a high-profile career or an amazing family. That is exactly the right way to show your new guy how important you really are.

4. Let your girlfriends run your relationship. Hey, we all need our girlfriends to prop us up from time to time. That’s understandable, and if your guy doesn’t see just how important your girl friends are — especially their opinions about him, the relationship and your job — he just doesn’t get you.

5. Crack that whip. No, not literally, but let him know you’re in charge. Take control of the relationship and hold on tight. Tell him what to wear, where to go for dinner and how to conduct himself in his place of work. That way he knows how much you care.

6. Be late or stand him up. Who cares if you’ve made plans with him and have nothing else to do? Sometimes a guy needs to be kept guessing, and nothing will do that more than being late for a date or skipping out on the date entirely.

7. Make your guy your girlfriend. Tell him all about your lady-business, borrow his razor constantly and even share his toothbrush. Nothing says, “I love you,” more than communal hygiene products. Oh, and make him buy tampons every now and again.

8. Text, talk and email on your dates. Hey, he needs to know just how valuable you are. So keep talking to your girlfriends, text your work buddies and check email. Constantly. He’ll get the message that he’s not your No. 1 priority soon enough.

9. Be rude. To him, to waiters/waitresses, theater workers. Anyone you come into contact with, really, because what every guy wants is a high-maintenance, never-happy woman at their side.

10. Cheat. See rule No. 1. You already think he’s cheating, so no matter how great he is or how much potential you think this relationship has, cheat. Hey, at least you’ll have a little fun before your romantic world comes crashing down, right?

OK ladies, obviously this one is a little tongue-in-cheek. If you really want to get that next relationship right, take these 10 rules and flip them upside down. Don’t talk about your exes, do make your relationship a priority and do talk to your guy as if he has a few brain cells left. Be open, honest and trusting and see where that takes you.

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Reason 1 : We’re Busy! One of the first reasons is possibly the most obvious, we live hectic lifestyles. That’s not to say women don’t live busy and hectic lives, but this post isn’t about the reasons women don’t call. Often, when I’ve not called a woman, it was often due to the clutter and […]

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Reason 1 : We’re Busy!

One of the first reasons is possibly the most obvious, we live hectic lifestyles. That’s not to say women don’t live busy and hectic lives, but this post isn’t about the reasons women don’t call.

Often, when I’ve not called a woman, it was often due to the clutter and chaos in my life. I didn’t intentionally mean not to call her, but if I had to choose between working to pay the bills or calling a woman, she’s going to have to wait. Often calling her would be put off so long, it didn’t may any sense to call. Many of us figure, if we don’t call in three or four days, we may be out of luck.

Life in a big city isn’t any easier. Everyone has at least two jobs and buried with pressure, stress and many other commitments. Men don’t have a busier life than women, life is just busy. Consider the times you’ve wanted to call a close friend but was unable or had to push back seeing close friends due to having a hectic life. If a guy says he’ll call you but doesn’t, consider that his life is preventing him from calling.

Women have often argued that calling a woman should only take a minute and time should always be made to call. They have also argued, if we really liked you, we would call. I’ll be honest, calling a woman for a potential date or after a date is rarely a five minute conversation, it hovers more around 20 – 30 minutes. There are some days 20 or 30 minutes isn’t available. I’m often told that our downtime would be a perfect moment to call a woman, however men value our downtime. There are days where we don’t want to be bothered at all, especially after a long, frustrating work day. Yes, technically we could call a woman during our downtime, but often we rather be left alone and relax!

Life is busy, it’s hectic, it’s messy. Sometimes when we want to call, we can’t. This shouldn’t be a negative against the guy. One solution would be for you to call him. Calling is a two way street, if you call and he doesn’t pick up, it may serve as a reminder to give you a call. If you call and he does pick up, what harm is there?

Just remember, if we don’t call back, maybe there things that are a bit more important than you, like our jobs.

Reason 2 : You’re Not Memorable

I hate to tell you ladies, one of the biggest reasons we don’t call you, is because you’re not memorable. You may think you’re memorable, or that you should be the person every guy flocks to; but the truth my hurt more than you would like it to. Who cares if you have great legs, large breasts, and a killer figure; if there’s no sustenance to it all, who cares? Think to the dates you’ve enjoyed yourself and had a great time and everything seemed to be going well. At the end of the date he promises to call, and never does. Why? He could be extremely busy, but if he never, ever, contacts you again, it’s because he’s moved on.

When we want something, we go after it. We’ll stay past happy hour with a woman at a bar, or change our plans if we feel there’s the slightest bit of luck. I’ve cleared my back account in a night at clubs because a woman was coming onto me. When we think you’re interested, and we think there’s a prize to be met, we’ll follow. There’s always a point where we determine what we’ll get from a woman at the end of the night. Either her number, or her underwear. If we think we’re going to get laid, we’ll pursue it until the next morning. If we think you’re a great woman and always want you around, we’ll pursue the next morning, afternoon, and evening. We would make damn sure we’ll find a way to get in contact with you.

There’s a few categories we classify women into: never, friend, “I’ll hit that”, and “DAYUM”. Your physique, clothing, and makeup may start you off as a “DAYUM”, but you’ll quickly turn into a one-night stand if you don’t back it up with any sustenance.

Advice: So how can you be more memorable to men? That’s another post entirely, but it begins with a few things. First, understand you’re not entitled to anything. This may sound rude, but it’s honest; men don’t owe women anything when we’re going on a date. If we don’t like you, you’re going to pay for your drinks. Second, understand your flaws, you’re not perfect. Work on the things that make you imperfect or be able to manage your imperfections. Don’t pass your flaws onto the men you’re dating, recognize what you’re doing wrong, and work on them. Lastly, RESPECT US MEN!

A quick side note: men are drawn to women that have like interests. Even if differences exist, there must be some cohesion. Television shows, pets, or common traits often do the trick. If more cohesion (not commonalities), there is with a man, the more memorable you are.

What do you think of the reasons above? Let us know in the comments!

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Reason 1 : We’re Busy! One of the first reasons is possibly the most obvious, we live hectic lifestyles. That’s not to say women don’t live busy and hectic lives, but this post isn’t about the reasons women don’t call. Often, when I’ve not called a woman, it was often due to the clutter and […]

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Reason 1 : We’re Busy!

One of the first reasons is possibly the most obvious, we live hectic lifestyles. That’s not to say women don’t live busy and hectic lives, but this post isn’t about the reasons women don’t call.

Often, when I’ve not called a woman, it was often due to the clutter and chaos in my life. I didn’t intentionally mean not to call her, but if I had to choose between working to pay the bills or calling a woman, she’s going to have to wait. Often calling her would be put off so long, it didn’t may any sense to call. Many of us figure, if we don’t call in three or four days, we may be out of luck.

Life in a big city isn’t any easier. Everyone has at least two jobs and buried with pressure, stress and many other commitments. Men don’t have a busier life than women, life is just busy. Consider the times you’ve wanted to call a close friend but was unable or had to push back seeing close friends due to having a hectic life. If a guy says he’ll call you but doesn’t, consider that his life is preventing him from calling.

Women have often argued that calling a woman should only take a minute and time should always be made to call. They have also argued, if we really liked you, we would call. I’ll be honest, calling a woman for a potential date or after a date is rarely a five minute conversation, it hovers more around 20 – 30 minutes. There are some days 20 or 30 minutes isn’t available. I’m often told that our downtime would be a perfect moment to call a woman, however men value our downtime. There are days where we don’t want to be bothered at all, especially after a long, frustrating work day. Yes, technically we could call a woman during our downtime, but often we rather be left alone and relax!

Life is busy, it’s hectic, it’s messy. Sometimes when we want to call, we can’t. This shouldn’t be a negative against the guy. One solution would be for you to call him. Calling is a two way street, if you call and he doesn’t pick up, it may serve as a reminder to give you a call. If you call and he does pick up, what harm is there?

Just remember, if we don’t call back, maybe there things that are a bit more important than you, like our jobs.

Reason 2 : You’re Not Memorable

I hate to tell you ladies, one of the biggest reasons we don’t call you, is because you’re not memorable. You may think you’re memorable, or that you should be the person every guy flocks to; but the truth my hurt more than you would like it to. Who cares if you have great legs, large breasts, and a killer figure; if there’s no sustenance to it all, who cares? Think to the dates you’ve enjoyed yourself and had a great time and everything seemed to be going well. At the end of the date he promises to call, and never does. Why? He could be extremely busy, but if he never, ever, contacts you again, it’s because he’s moved on.

When we want something, we go after it. We’ll stay past happy hour with a woman at a bar, or change our plans if we feel there’s the slightest bit of luck. I’ve cleared my back account in a night at clubs because a woman was coming onto me. When we think you’re interested, and we think there’s a prize to be met, we’ll follow. There’s always a point where we determine what we’ll get from a woman at the end of the night. Either her number, or her underwear. If we think we’re going to get laid, we’ll pursue it until the next morning. If we think you’re a great woman and always want you around, we’ll pursue the next morning, afternoon, and evening. We would make damn sure we’ll find a way to get in contact with you.

There’s a few categories we classify women into: never, friend, “I’ll hit that”, and “DAYUM”. Your physique, clothing, and makeup may start you off as a “DAYUM”, but you’ll quickly turn into a one-night stand if you don’t back it up with any sustenance.

Advice: So how can you be more memorable to men? That’s another post entirely, but it begins with a few things. First, understand you’re not entitled to anything. This may sound rude, but it’s honest; men don’t owe women anything when we’re going on a date. If we don’t like you, you’re going to pay for your drinks. Second, understand your flaws, you’re not perfect. Work on the things that make you imperfect or be able to manage your imperfections. Don’t pass your flaws onto the men you’re dating, recognize what you’re doing wrong, and work on them. Lastly, RESPECT US MEN!

A quick side note: men are drawn to women that have like interests. Even if differences exist, there must be some cohesion. Television shows, pets, or common traits often do the trick. If more cohesion (not commonalities), there is with a man, the more memorable you are.

What do you think of the reasons above? Let us know in the comments!

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We’ve all had scary moments when we’re on a first or second date and suddenly discover that this really nice and appealing person is heavily into some weird stuff, hard-core stuff, like…old Lawrence Welk shows. German student drinking songs. fly-fishing, or doily collecting. Maybe it’s serendipity – “Welk? Really? Me too!” – or maybe it’s […]

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We’ve all had scary moments when we’re on a first or second date and suddenly discover that this really nice and appealing person is heavily into some weird stuff, hard-core stuff, like…old Lawrence Welk shows. German student drinking songs. fly-fishing, or doily collecting. Maybe it’s serendipity – “Welk? Really? Me too!” – or maybe it’s time to flee.

Sometimes, though, the warning may come not in what the person says but in what the person owns. Here are eight items that, if seen on or around your date, may make you rethink about whom you wish your heart to throb.

1) Hinder Minder

The San Francisco Chronicle’s “Tails of the City” blog alerted me to this disturbing product. The author notes, “I’ve always had dogs with long, straight tails that conveniently keep their more ‘unsightly’ parts under wraps. But for pets with stubby, curly-cue or non-existent nubs, there’s Rear Gear to the rescue.”

There’s no good way to say it, but I’ll try: The Rear Gear is a little tail-hung medallion made to cover a pet’s…extrusion mechanism. This might seem useful for those who own pets and toddlers, to prevent the latter from playing Little Dutch Boy with the former, but I doubt that would work anyway.

My take: I’d worry about a date who worried this much about her dog’s rear end.

2) Ace, King, Queen, Luke

All the fun of nerdom with none of the technology, it’s the Empire Strikes Back 30th Anniversary Edition Deck of playing cards. Solitaire for the dork who can’t get the new Dragon Age: Origins to work on his PC.

My take: A low-tech geek is an oxymoron. Even a compatible wonk will want to tread carefully.

3) TM Aiiieeee!

You may feel that the “Single and Disease-Free” shirt is a highly useful piece of clothing, affirming as it does that the wearer is:

a) single, and
b) disease-free.

Then again, you only have the shirt’s word for it. Just because it’s 100% cotton doesn’t mean it’s 100% reliable.

My take: Someone who would wear this in public is probably not the kind of person whose availability and health status is of interest to you. Remember suddenly that it’s your night to wash the cat.

4) Maybe You Should Drive

For those who just can’t stand the tiresome job of actually pouring beer from the can into the mouth, there’s the Bierstick. Watch your date inject foamy goodness into the mouths of himself and his buddies! Hey, maybe your date will be the first to hurl!

My take: Rehab waiting to happen. Don’t say you weren’t warned.

5) I [Blech] You

Fat little heart soaps say, “I love you.” Anatomically correct heart soaps say, “I’m concerned about your atrial fibrillation.” Is your date a medical professional? Maybe there’s a reason for the soap. If not, it’s an eyebrow raiser.

My take: We’re looking for a pattern of behavior. Keep an eye out (so to speak) for a spleen-shaped soapdish or a bath brush shaped like a gallbladder.

6) Allarming

If your date actually owns a llama farm, or is a veterinarian, the book Making the Most of Your Llama would be normal, even expected, as a fine manual for proper llama care. If your date has this book but no llama farm, but does own a loom, be aware that at some point you’re getting a sweater. (And when she says it’s made from scratch, you’d better believe it.) If your date has this book and profession or hobby that would explain it, llook out.

My take: Don’t believe the “My roommate left that here” line. Demand an explanation.

7) Mullet Over

Yes, the Mullet Wig is obviously a gag. But it’s a $20 gag. Why is your date spending $20 on a gag and not on you? Or did he buy the wig FOR you? In which case, sneak out the bathroom window before the waiter brings the food.

My take: Not an automatic disqualifier, but there had better be a good story to go with it.

8) People Who Live in Crass Houses

Is it even necessary to begin to explain why the Hustler Gold Pole is a ghastly thing to find in a date’s home? And unspeakable if his home is Mom’s basement?

My take: Run.

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We’ve all had scary moments when we’re on a first or second date and suddenly discover that this really nice and appealing person is heavily into some weird stuff, hard-core stuff, like…old Lawrence Welk shows. German student drinking songs. fly-fishing, or doily collecting. Maybe it’s serendipity – “Welk? Really? Me too!” – or maybe it’s […]

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We’ve all had scary moments when we’re on a first or second date and suddenly discover that this really nice and appealing person is heavily into some weird stuff, hard-core stuff, like…old Lawrence Welk shows. German student drinking songs. fly-fishing, or doily collecting. Maybe it’s serendipity – “Welk? Really? Me too!” – or maybe it’s time to flee.

Sometimes, though, the warning may come not in what the person says but in what the person owns. Here are eight items that, if seen on or around your date, may make you rethink about whom you wish your heart to throb.

1) Hinder Minder

The San Francisco Chronicle’s “Tails of the City” blog alerted me to this disturbing product. The author notes, “I’ve always had dogs with long, straight tails that conveniently keep their more ‘unsightly’ parts under wraps. But for pets with stubby, curly-cue or non-existent nubs, there’s Rear Gear to the rescue.”

There’s no good way to say it, but I’ll try: The Rear Gear is a little tail-hung medallion made to cover a pet’s…extrusion mechanism. This might seem useful for those who own pets and toddlers, to prevent the latter from playing Little Dutch Boy with the former, but I doubt that would work anyway.

My take: I’d worry about a date who worried this much about her dog’s rear end.

2) Ace, King, Queen, Luke

All the fun of nerdom with none of the technology, it’s the Empire Strikes Back 30th Anniversary Edition Deck of playing cards. Solitaire for the dork who can’t get the new Dragon Age: Origins to work on his PC.

My take: A low-tech geek is an oxymoron. Even a compatible wonk will want to tread carefully.

3) TM Aiiieeee!

You may feel that the “Single and Disease-Free” shirt is a highly useful piece of clothing, affirming as it does that the wearer is:

a) single, and
b) disease-free.

Then again, you only have the shirt’s word for it. Just because it’s 100% cotton doesn’t mean it’s 100% reliable.

My take: Someone who would wear this in public is probably not the kind of person whose availability and health status is of interest to you. Remember suddenly that it’s your night to wash the cat.

4) Maybe You Should Drive

For those who just can’t stand the tiresome job of actually pouring beer from the can into the mouth, there’s the Bierstick. Watch your date inject foamy goodness into the mouths of himself and his buddies! Hey, maybe your date will be the first to hurl!

My take: Rehab waiting to happen. Don’t say you weren’t warned.

5) I [Blech] You

Fat little heart soaps say, “I love you.” Anatomically correct heart soaps say, “I’m concerned about your atrial fibrillation.” Is your date a medical professional? Maybe there’s a reason for the soap. If not, it’s an eyebrow raiser.

My take: We’re looking for a pattern of behavior. Keep an eye out (so to speak) for a spleen-shaped soapdish or a bath brush shaped like a gallbladder.

6) Allarming

If your date actually owns a llama farm, or is a veterinarian, the book Making the Most of Your Llama would be normal, even expected, as a fine manual for proper llama care. If your date has this book but no llama farm, but does own a loom, be aware that at some point you’re getting a sweater. (And when she says it’s made from scratch, you’d better believe it.) If your date has this book and profession or hobby that would explain it, llook out.

My take: Don’t believe the “My roommate left that here” line. Demand an explanation.

7) Mullet Over

Yes, the Mullet Wig is obviously a gag. But it’s a $20 gag. Why is your date spending $20 on a gag and not on you? Or did he buy the wig FOR you? In which case, sneak out the bathroom window before the waiter brings the food.

My take: Not an automatic disqualifier, but there had better be a good story to go with it.

8) People Who Live in Crass Houses

Is it even necessary to begin to explain why the Hustler Gold Pole is a ghastly thing to find in a date’s home? And unspeakable if his home is Mom’s basement?

My take: Run.

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Following our previous post on how a messy home mess up romance, we would like to share the ideas on how to prepare your place for a first date.  When you’re looking for a serious relationship, sometimes having inappropriate items stationed around your bachelor pad can sometimes scare off prospective partners.  Men generally never give […]

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Following our previous post on how a messy home mess up romance, we would like to share the ideas on how to prepare your place for a first date.  When you’re looking for a serious relationship, sometimes having inappropriate items stationed around your bachelor pad can sometimes scare off prospective partners.  Men generally never give it a second thought, but women can get the wrong idea and prejudge you by the space you live in without giving you a chance to get to know them first.

Sometimes, a space where men can be men does not mesh with your dating life.  Generally, it’s not the color of your couch that can turn her off but rather the scantily clad pirate lady statue in the corner holding a tray of shot classes.

It is possible to give her a good first impression without having to hang pink checkered drapes and repaint your entire apartment.  You can make it chick friendly without sacrificing your manhood in the process.

Giving pirate lady a night off and making sure your place is clean goes a long way.  Follow these quick and easy tips to tweak and revamp your bachelor pad before inviting a woman over.

Tip#1

The living room is most likely the first room she is going to set her eyes on so you want that room to cozy and welcoming.  A bare couch is cold and uninviting, so add a pop of color with fabrics and pillows to add some ambiance to the room.  Introducing textiles like faux fur blankets can help to give the room a spicy boost.  Also, covering hard benches with inexpensive cushions can make seating more comfortable and she’s liable to stay a little longer.

Tip#2

Get some inexpensive trays to place wine glasses or candles on.  Setting the mood and getting her to feel comfortable is the goal here.

Tip#3

The bathroom is probably the second room she will see so it needs to be cozy and sparkling as well. This means clean towels, a bath mat and creature comforts like good smelling hand soaps.

Make sure to declutter your bathroom counter without showcasing every can of shaving cream you own.  Also, if your shower curtain is see through, do yourself a favor and change it so if your lady decides to get cozy with you in the shower she doesn’t feel like she’s on display. Potentially, the date could turn into a sleepover so having extra towels and a robe handy is being prepared without being pretentious.

Tip#4

Lets face it, your bedroom is the most important room and is the last place she might potentially see at the end of the night.  Final impressions are critical here so make sure to de-clutter your space by picking up around your bed and nightstand.

Tip#5

It’s a good idea to chill any wines and drinks prior to your date and acquiring some nice snack ideas doesn’t hurt either.  Olives, dates, gourmet cheeses, crackers and hummus speak louder than chips and beer.

Now you’re off to the races and are ready for date night!  Decorating for dating shouldn’t be hard, but rather like undoing her bra with two hands instead of one.  Let your apartment speak for itself and you should hear it say I’m suave without having to trying so hard.

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Following our previous post on how a messy home mess up romance, we would like to share the ideas on how to prepare your place for a first date.  When you’re looking for a serious relationship, sometimes having inappropriate items stationed around your bachelor pad can sometimes scare off prospective partners.  Men generally never give […]

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Following our previous post on how a messy home mess up romance, we would like to share the ideas on how to prepare your place for a first date.  When you’re looking for a serious relationship, sometimes having inappropriate items stationed around your bachelor pad can sometimes scare off prospective partners.  Men generally never give it a second thought, but women can get the wrong idea and prejudge you by the space you live in without giving you a chance to get to know them first.

Sometimes, a space where men can be men does not mesh with your dating life.  Generally, it’s not the color of your couch that can turn her off but rather the scantily clad pirate lady statue in the corner holding a tray of shot classes.

It is possible to give her a good first impression without having to hang pink checkered drapes and repaint your entire apartment.  You can make it chick friendly without sacrificing your manhood in the process.

Giving pirate lady a night off and making sure your place is clean goes a long way.  Follow these quick and easy tips to tweak and revamp your bachelor pad before inviting a woman over.

Tip#1

The living room is most likely the first room she is going to set her eyes on so you want that room to cozy and welcoming.  A bare couch is cold and uninviting, so add a pop of color with fabrics and pillows to add some ambiance to the room.  Introducing textiles like faux fur blankets can help to give the room a spicy boost.  Also, covering hard benches with inexpensive cushions can make seating more comfortable and she’s liable to stay a little longer.

Tip#2

Get some inexpensive trays to place wine glasses or candles on.  Setting the mood and getting her to feel comfortable is the goal here.

Tip#3

The bathroom is probably the second room she will see so it needs to be cozy and sparkling as well. This means clean towels, a bath mat and creature comforts like good smelling hand soaps.

Make sure to declutter your bathroom counter without showcasing every can of shaving cream you own.  Also, if your shower curtain is see through, do yourself a favor and change it so if your lady decides to get cozy with you in the shower she doesn’t feel like she’s on display. Potentially, the date could turn into a sleepover so having extra towels and a robe handy is being prepared without being pretentious.

Tip#4

Lets face it, your bedroom is the most important room and is the last place she might potentially see at the end of the night.  Final impressions are critical here so make sure to de-clutter your space by picking up around your bed and nightstand.

Tip#5

It’s a good idea to chill any wines and drinks prior to your date and acquiring some nice snack ideas doesn’t hurt either.  Olives, dates, gourmet cheeses, crackers and hummus speak louder than chips and beer.

Now you’re off to the races and are ready for date night!  Decorating for dating shouldn’t be hard, but rather like undoing her bra with two hands instead of one.  Let your apartment speak for itself and you should hear it say I’m suave without having to trying so hard.

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Have you just started dating a guy or gal for whom the word “fun” was invented? Someone who’s always the life of the party? Caution: You might very well be dating someone with an addiction problem! I have a friend, “Sherry,” who fell for a guy who liked to party. A lot. When they first […]

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Have you just started dating a guy or gal for whom the word “fun” was invented? Someone who’s always the life of the party? Caution: You might very well be dating someone with an addiction problem!

I have a friend, “Sherry,” who fell for a guy who liked to party. A lot. When they first started dating, he was willing to do activities and events that she liked to do, many non-alcohol-related. But as they continued to see each other, gradually everything became about spending all their free time “relaxing” on his boat. They would anchor in a local body of water, and party for several hours — drink, play loud music, drink, dance a bit, go for frequent dips, drink, sit and watch the other boaters. And drink.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying this activity occasionally. But Sherry began skipping her preferred activities in favor of boating — every weekend. She found her own consumption levels creeping up. And when she tried to gently point out that he might want to cut back, she was met with resistance and denial on his part.

When they eventually parted, his addictive behavior and refusal to face it were a big part of the breakup. And Sherry struggled with many doubts and second-guessing about her own choices in the relationship.

So, before you find yourself falling for Mr. or Ms. Life of the Party, take a look at our 5 top signs you’re dating an alcoholic:

1. Time to drink!

It’s a major alcoholism red flag if your new sweetie seems to plan his or her life around the opportunity to drink. Everything centers on drinking or an excuse to drink: When he comes home, he always must have a cocktail — or two or three — to “calm down” from his stressful day; she’s a regular on the happy-hour circuit, knowing which places have the best deals on which days.

2. Problem? What problem?

Denial — which is defined as “refusal to see or acknowledge the truth” — can be a huge sign of an addiction problem. If you mention that the person should maybe cut back or even just question his/her drinking levels, you’ll be met with silence, mocking, hostility, turning it around on you, or some sort of reaction meant to deflect the underlying truth that you’re dating an alcoholic.

3. See, I stopped – for a week.

Another alcoholic behavior is swinging between over-consumption and abstinence — but never a happy medium. If your guy or gal just can’t seem to master the art of “moderation,” then he or she likely has an “addictive” type of personality; and addiction often follows for those who are not willing to take the necessary precautions to deal with this genetic flaw.

4. Here, honey, have another one.

If you find yourself being pushed — either overtly or subconsciously — to drink more and more in an effort to keep up, this is the time to say, “Whoa!” The lastthing you want to do is develop a drinking problem of your own!

5. Things just aren’t working out.

And, finally, your darling might very well cut you loose if his or her alcoholism becomes enough of an issue between you. A list of other “problems” will be presented: He’ll tell you he’s not ready for a commitment; she’ll say her job is just too demanding at this point. Or they’ll pick at small, inconsequential things in order to create a rift as an excuse to break up.

And guess what? You’ll be way better off … in the end.

As for Sherry, she’s still single and dating — with a recovered sense of self-confidence and a finer-tuned radar for the signs of alcoholism in her new dates!

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Have you just started dating a guy or gal for whom the word “fun” was invented? Someone who’s always the life of the party? Caution: You might very well be dating someone with an addiction problem! I have a friend, “Sherry,” who fell for a guy who liked to party. A lot. When they first […]

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Have you just started dating a guy or gal for whom the word “fun” was invented? Someone who’s always the life of the party? Caution: You might very well be dating someone with an addiction problem!

I have a friend, “Sherry,” who fell for a guy who liked to party. A lot. When they first started dating, he was willing to do activities and events that she liked to do, many non-alcohol-related. But as they continued to see each other, gradually everything became about spending all their free time “relaxing” on his boat. They would anchor in a local body of water, and party for several hours — drink, play loud music, drink, dance a bit, go for frequent dips, drink, sit and watch the other boaters. And drink.

Now, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying this activity occasionally. But Sherry began skipping her preferred activities in favor of boating — every weekend. She found her own consumption levels creeping up. And when she tried to gently point out that he might want to cut back, she was met with resistance and denial on his part.

When they eventually parted, his addictive behavior and refusal to face it were a big part of the breakup. And Sherry struggled with many doubts and second-guessing about her own choices in the relationship.

So, before you find yourself falling for Mr. or Ms. Life of the Party, take a look at our 5 top signs you’re dating an alcoholic:

1. Time to drink!

It’s a major alcoholism red flag if your new sweetie seems to plan his or her life around the opportunity to drink. Everything centers on drinking or an excuse to drink: When he comes home, he always must have a cocktail — or two or three — to “calm down” from his stressful day; she’s a regular on the happy-hour circuit, knowing which places have the best deals on which days.

2. Problem? What problem?

Denial — which is defined as “refusal to see or acknowledge the truth” — can be a huge sign of an addiction problem. If you mention that the person should maybe cut back or even just question his/her drinking levels, you’ll be met with silence, mocking, hostility, turning it around on you, or some sort of reaction meant to deflect the underlying truth that you’re dating an alcoholic.

3. See, I stopped – for a week.

Another alcoholic behavior is swinging between over-consumption and abstinence — but never a happy medium. If your guy or gal just can’t seem to master the art of “moderation,” then he or she likely has an “addictive” type of personality; and addiction often follows for those who are not willing to take the necessary precautions to deal with this genetic flaw.

4. Here, honey, have another one.

If you find yourself being pushed — either overtly or subconsciously — to drink more and more in an effort to keep up, this is the time to say, “Whoa!” The lastthing you want to do is develop a drinking problem of your own!

5. Things just aren’t working out.

And, finally, your darling might very well cut you loose if his or her alcoholism becomes enough of an issue between you. A list of other “problems” will be presented: He’ll tell you he’s not ready for a commitment; she’ll say her job is just too demanding at this point. Or they’ll pick at small, inconsequential things in order to create a rift as an excuse to break up.

And guess what? You’ll be way better off … in the end.

As for Sherry, she’s still single and dating — with a recovered sense of self-confidence and a finer-tuned radar for the signs of alcoholism in her new dates!

The post 5 Signs You’re Dating an Alcoholic appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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